Book

I told a friend of mine shortly after Jen passed away that I was kicking around the idea of writing a book. I started keeping a journal shortly after Jen was diagnosed and have continued with the personal journal and this blog. There are quite a few books out there for grieving wives, but not that many for grieving husbands, particularly “younger” grieving husbands. There are tons and tons of book about how to handle grief, the steps of grief, what do while grieving etc and please I hope no one takes offense to this but most of those books are very spiritual in nature and all revolve around finding religion.


Now, I do NOT want to go down the religious path…if religion works for you…awesome, that’s great. I am not a religious person, neither was Jen. I basically believe that one should seriously try to treat others the way that you would like to be treated in return.


If my experiences could help some younger grieving person, especially a younger grieving father, then that would honestly make me feel better. I’m a very emotional person and I most definitely wear my heart on my sleeve. It’s never difficult to tell what I am feeling, but I am also very strong and determined. I take my promise that I made to Jennifer very serious - that I will not become an angry and bitter person. If my experiences both before and after her passing could somehow benefit others, that would be good…and something good has to come from all of this.


The book would not be about finding religion - it would be about picking yourself back up and starting over. I’m not a doctor offering advice. I am an average person. I’m the guy you work with. I’m the guy that coaches his daughter’s soccer team. I’m the guy whose wife died and I’m the guy who has to go on. Believe me I have “googled” and searched Amazon.com and read a ton of book reviews – if this type of book is out there, I certainly haven’t seen it…maybe it needs to be written…maybe I’m that guy.